I’ve been noticing something lately, in myself and in the people I work with. We carry a lot that was never ours to carry. Other people’s choices. Their reactions. Their growth, or the lack of it. We pick it all up and we hold it. Then we turn it over. We keep turning...
Some people stay with you longer than they should. Something about it keeps coming back, when you're trying to focus, in the middle of something else, or your day is otherwise fine. That's usually a signal that there's more going on than the moment itself. When...
Most of us have had that one co-worker. The one who interrupts. The one who seems to make everything more complicated than it needs to be. The one who leaves you feeling irritated, drained, or oddly preoccupied long after the conversation is over. In the hundreds of...
The inner critic often gets louder during periods of change. When familiar signals of competence disappear, the mind fills the gap with doubt and rumination. In reality, that voice is less a truth teller and more a safety inspector scanning for risk
Preemptive Self-Protection describes the pattern of choosing safety over growth when exposure increases. Learn how to recognize it and make clearer leadership decisions.
A reflection on the quiet cost of leadership, unshared uncertainty, and what happens when capable adults are expected to hold it together.
When everything around you feels loud, it is harder to hear yourself. Not in a dramatic, falling-apart way. More in small, wearing ways. You hesitate longer than you used to. Things that once felt obvious now take effort. You second-guess decisions you would have...
When things feel unsettled, the instinct is to figure them out as quickly as possible. But during periods of uncertainty, pushing for clarity often creates more internal conflict. This piece explores why forcing answers backfires when something deeper is still reorganizing.
....And It's Not What You Think Most people think they're stuck in transition because they can't make a decision. They come to me saying: "Should I leave this job?" "Should I end this relationship?" "Should I start over completely?" But here's what I've learned after...